Midnight Shift !

Hola! Wew! I had a horrible shift last night. It's a place I have never worked before. Everything is new to me. I have a slight idea already how the facility runs, however, I was not prepared for the amount of physical work that I had to do. I am a very hard worker. I take my job very seriously and do it the best that I can. But last night's shift was just horrible. I can't really give any details because I do not wanna break any HIPAA law. All I can say is that I am thankful that my partner for the night was very helpful! On that note, I am not going back to that place again. I am not gonna say never ever, but not in a long while. Till next time! Sayonara!

GOODNESS GRACIOUS!!!

It's been a long time since I updated this blog. I forgot about it until I was checking something out on my google account. Wow! It felt like this blog was written in ancient time. Everybody's busy using their phones now. I don't think people even read blogs anymore. We're all busy watching YouTube, Snapchat and TikTok videos, posting stuff on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc. 2014 was my last post. A lot of things has happened to me. I got older, had different jobs. My son has grown and is waaayyy taller than me now even though he's just 16 years old.  Maybe I should use this platform as my everyday online diary so 10 years from now I have something fun to read lol! I don't think I know how to publish this anymore lol wow! I am speechless :) hmmmm... maybe I should edit my picture too... that's what I am going to do!!! :)

Dangerously Cold

We started our year here in Chicagoland with lots of snow. Today, we got at least 10 inches of snow and it is still pouring. Tomorrow, we're expecting to have a dangerously cold temperature that has not been experienced for the last 20 years. Wind Chill Warning as low as -45 degrees . Please be safe and stay warm Chicagoland! 

Labor Day

My Labor Day weekend started on Thursday, cause I was off work. Hmmm... what did I do? First off, I had to finish the kdrama that I started watching. I had to stop watching it when we went camping. Anyways, after I watched it, I found a new couple that became my instant favorite! The show is called We Got Married. This is were I found my all time favorite couple... the JoongBo couple (Kim Hyun Joong and Hwang Bo).

Anyhow, my new fave couple that made me so giddy is Julien Kang and Yoon Se Ah. Julien is a Korean/Canadian actor while Yoon Se Ah is a famous Korean actress. Ahh... I don't know what to say, but they look so cute together even though Se Ah is 4 years older than Julien. I finished the entire 29 episodes in 2 days :).

If you want to try watching them here's the link: http://www.wonderfulgeneration.net/2012/08/julien-and-se-ah-we-got-married-english.html

Here are some of their photos:

Their "honeymoon" in Hawaii

Note:

We Got Married (Hangul: 우리 결혼했어요) is a South Korean reality variety show, one segment of the Sunday Sunday Night program. First broadcast in 2008, the show pairs up Korean celebrities to show what life would be like if they were married.^[1] Each week, couples are assigned missions to complete, with candid interviews of the participants to reveal their thoughts and feelings.

I do not own the photos

Had A Great Weekend Getaway

I had a fun weekend! :) Tiring but fun. We went on a camping trip in Michigan last Friday, the 26^th. The person that enjoyed it more is my son. The place was nice. Though I’ve been there a few times, I particularly liked it because we stayed in a log cabin instead of sleeping in a tent. I don’t mind sleeping in a tent, but it’s more comfortable staying in a cabin with a queen size and a bunk bed in it. By the way, me and my boy put up his tent. He didn't sleep there come night time, but he stayed there during the day while playing with his tablet. lol :) Anyway, It was cool in the camping site. It was over 80 degrees, but you can't feel it because it was breezy. It felt like it was in the 70s until you go to the beach, where the sun is scorching hot (but the water is freezing cold!) Anyhow, we did the normal camping thingy, you know, grilling, bonfire, swimming and walking in the sandy beach, trekking in the camping site’s dunes, and all. I even watched the sunset. It was beautiful, but, stupid me I didn’t take a photo. Yeah, I know it was stupid of me…really! Oh well, maybe next time :) I will try to post some photos as soon as my hubby decided to send me a copy. It was his camera so yeah; I have to wait whenever he feels like sending it. Good luck with that! That’s all for now folks… I’m back to my regular programming… work, lazing around the house and watching my Korean drama :)

P.S. I noticed that I have a lot of smiley face on my post... lol

Going On A Trip

Tomorrow, we will be going on a camping trip. I'm not gonna say where, but will post it when I get back on Sunday. I know it's gonna be fun. The boy here is very excited. He can't wait to sleep in his new tent and swim in the beach. I'm going to miss my Korean drama, oh well. It can wait :) Till next time. Annyeong! 

A Good Read

I am not sure if I have seen this on Facebook or Twitter, I can't remember. Reading it brought tears to my eyes, thinking that somehow, there's someone who truly understands us, women. I'd like to thank him for sharing it.

Here's the direct link to his blog:  love story from a male perspective

Beautiful advice from a divorced man after 16 years of marriage

My advice after a divorce following 16 years of marriage, by Gerald Rogers.

Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had

1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2. Protect your own heart. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3. Fall in love over and over again.  You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4. Always see the best in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5. It’s not your job to change or fix her… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6. Take full accountability for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7. Never blame your wife if you get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

8. Allow your woman to just be. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9. Be silly… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10. Fill her soul everyday… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11. Be present. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12. Be willing to take her sexually, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

13. Don’t be an idiot…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

14. Give her space… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

15. Be vulnerable… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16. Be fully transparent. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

17. Never stop growing together… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

18. Don’t worry about money. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

19. Forgive immediately and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20. Always choose love. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end marriage isn’t about happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come. Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late. But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I loved being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.

MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE: Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from. Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.

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Sad...sad...Happy..happy..

Sad...sad...

I said I wanted to update this blog and tell you a story how I ended up admiring a couple that's truly out of this world... But anyways, I still have plenty of time, I guess, to continue their story... :) plus heck! No one's reading my blog anyways...lol

Happy...happy...

On another note, today, is my  " kulets' " first day of school. I asked him if he's nervous and said, "No Mom, I'm excited". Well, I am not. I am more nervous than he is. Everything turned out fine though. I dropped him off, met his teachers, paid the registration fee and left. Will pick him up later at 3 o'clock.. So mommy here has free time from 8:35-3:00 since I'm off work today. Yay for me! Korean drama marathon. :) See you in a bit!

Four More Days

Can't wait for this week to be over. I am a bit tired. Today, I had scratches on my arms for putting up a 7-foot Christmas tree up at my workplace. Darn tree! But, I am happy that my boss loved it! :)   Anyways, after this week I will be off for two weeks.. Yay! The downside, I am not going to be happy come payday..No work, no pay. Ouch! Oh well... I will surely enjoy that two weeks off. I will be lazing around the house, and watch as many kdrama as I can :) 

Not Finish Updating

It has been a busy and tiring week for me therefore the updating on my blog is on the very slow side :(... not on the lazy mode this time, just really, really tired. I intend to finish updating this blog though. It may take me a while, but I will finish it... I might even "fast forward" everything.. meaning, I will make the long stories short :P Anyways, since it's 4:14 a.m. I gotta hit the sack! Later peeps!